I am a haptic person which means that I – for example – move a lot around when I am telling a story (I call it “doing the Kermit’), learn better when I walk around the room and always have something in my hands to fiddle around with in any given situation. Because nowadays everyone is a communications expert (thanks modern crime-series that serve up half-assed communication-theory, I am looking at you, Tim Roth!), a lot of people assume that I do this because I am nervous. Well, I am not, I just work that way.
Anyways, because of that, every beer-bottle is in danger of getting stripped off which now and then results in some impressive artwork whenever I am a little bored. Yeah, communication-experts, it’s not being nervous, it’s being really really bored by your lame pub-conversation.
I lost my panties in the moshpit! 
I get the impression that people tend to project their own feelings or maybe just their expectations on other people.
I can hardly count the number of times I’ve been told “Wow, you seemed really angry just then, I was actually a little scared”, or “Man, you look really done in, had a hard day?” or “Wow, you’re in a good mood today, aren’t you?” or stuff like that, and I have no idea what they’re talking about.
I stopped contradicting them, though, because they don’t believe me anyway.
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Yeah, the more you try to tell them that they’re wrong, the more they will believe that they are right because “the lady doth protest too much”.
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I’m not sure if it’s a good idea from a quest-for-knowledge kind of view, but for peace of mind, I try to keep interaction with people who openly contradict my claims about my own mental state to a minimum.
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I think that’s a good idea…as long as your mental state is stable, anyways.
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For suitable definitions of “stable”, it probably is.
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So Nessie is just beer label art? Wow!
You are so much more productive than my tendency to disassemble and re-assemble ball point pens. I don’t notice I’m doing it until a spring flies across the room.
Haptic? It’s a little embarrassing to learn about my native language from a non-native speaker … but still kinda cool.
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